It’s been quite a while since I’ve updated this blog. It’s all for good reasons, though! Eric and I have had a ….reconciliation.

Following my last blog post, we had a bit of a bust up. He didn’t want me seeing other men while we were dating, and I was mad at him for trying to dictate how this relationship was going to work. He even had the nerve to tell me that I needed to stop sleeping with my husband while I was seeing him. (Not that it would have been an issue – it’s like waking the dead with that man. But who is he to tell me who I can and can’t sleep with!?!?)

 

Well, that turned into a massive row. He screamed, I screamed, but we calmed down and came to a bit of a consensus. I would still see who I wanted to see, but I wouldn’t discuss that with Eric. He could do the same if he chose to, but we both made our feelings for each other clear. I let him know that at this time, I was looking for a no strings attached extramarital affair, and if he wanted more than that, I couldn’t provide. He understood what I needed.

Then the fun part happened. The make-up sex.

 

We were already at Eric’s place. After we were breathless from our back and forths, he leaned in and kissed me. Not those kind of kisses you see in bodice-ripping romance novels, but the kind where you almost devour each other in sexual anticipation. Kisses on the lips turned to kisses on the neck, which lead to my bra being removed for kisses elsewhere. We made our way back to his bedroom where we apologized to each other through our mutual sexual gratification, ending with a lovely shower and a bite to eat at the end of the night.

Yes, this is the type of extramarital affair I’ve been searching for!

I think I may have shot myself in the foot this time. Not a word from Eric all week. No text, no emails, no calls, no nothing. I’ve been just as bad, I suppose, since I haven’t got in touch with him at all.

 

After our date last week, and the awkward conversations, I had a few words with friends and acquaintances. Since many of the members of the Loving Links forum have been in this extramarital affair scene for longer than I’ve been alive, I sought their advice. The overwhelming response was that the question posed to me – about cheating on Eric since I am cheating on my husband – was immature and unreasonable. There’s no way I can guarantee that I won’t cheat, and Eric is unrealistic thinking that way.

 

 I understand what they said, but I can’t completely agree with it. Yes, I’m naive, but I could see me asking the same thing if the shoe was on the other foot. My best friend knows what is going on in my love/social life, and she’s even helped me pick out dirty underwear a few months back knowing full well my husband wouldn’t be seeing it. Her take on it was similar to mine. I was upset, but I couldn’t find a way to avoid the issue.

 

So we are going out tonight – to a club, as unattched women. I just sent a text to Eric saying that I’d love to meet up with, but I can’t see him responding or even showing up. I’ve packed a backpack full of slutty clubbing clothes, got half a bottle of wine down me, and I’m about to leave the house to grab the bus to my friend’s place. I’m looking forward to playing out like I did before I was married, and seeing what falls into my lap.

Who knows, maybe I’ll end up with an extra marital one night stand in my near future?