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Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

[Posted October 25th, 2011]

My date with Eric was this week. It was a bit mixed to be honest, and I’m unsure how to take it. We met at the coffee shop at the shopping centre mid week, a bit after lunch hour to avoid anyone we know. We chatted for a bit, but them the conversation turned a bit serious.
 
Eric knew I was married. He had just ended his own relationship recently, so he was unattached. While he felt safe in himself that he wasn’t cheating on anyone he had feelings for, he did have a bit of an issue with the fact that I am married. I explained the situation to him – getting married to an internet boyfriend too soon and too young, but that didn’t seem to comfort him at all. He valued the vows of marriage, and posed to me a very obvious question – if I was cheating on my husband, what prevented me from cheating on him? Does the old adage “once a cheater always a cheater” hold true?
 
I understood where he was coming from. Even though he was younger than I was, he was wise beyond his years. While I was secretly aching inside to scream out that a relationship with him would be completely different than my relationship with my husband, the words coming out of my mouth didn’t seem to accurately describe my emotions. It’s so hard to explain.
 
After quite a serious discussion, we moved on and tried to enjoy our time together. We chatted about my life back in the States, what I was like when I was younger, all the sorts of chit chats that a couple has while they are dating. We walked hand in hand, and made the most of our time together before he had to go back to work. We kissed briefly, but I was so mixed. This didn’t go how I wanted it to go at all!
 
 In the back of my head, kept replaying our coffee-shop conversation. My mind didn’t stop going in circles the entire hour drive back to my house. Has this relationship ended before I was able to even get it off the ground? How do I get around the whole “cheating wife” brand and get Eric to trust me? I’m so very lost in this marital affair.

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