David's adultery blog

Loving Links Featured in Sunday Times Style Magazine

admin — Tue, 01 May 2012 21:38:21 +0000

What a busy week!! We have just started a major redesign of our site – ongoing process – and we find ourselves featured in the Style section of the Sunday Times. Amazingly this is the 3rd time the Style section has written about us and it reinforces our status as the original quality website in the extramarital sector. I know gthat we had slipped a bit design-wise over the last couple of years but we were busy looking for a designer we liked who realised we were not an adult dating site. Well, the redesign is underway and we are also rebuilding our software – slow process I had to laugh though, the ST journalist was a bit sarky about our beloved forum and found it like a suburban golf club bar. Well I would ragther that than feel like a lapdance club which is the spirit of many other sites!

The new look for our site.

admin — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 13:20:32 +0000

We have started the slow road to rebuilding our site and you will notice that our home page has been chnged with a super new design. Several of the inside pages have also been replaced and the remaining pages will be all upgraded and harmonised in the coming weeks. We are testing the new site section by section so we prefer to work it in manageable stages. Once the aesthetics are complete we will install a new software engine but that is still being written for us. The existing site is running fine so we want to do the changeover at a gentle pace. So, for the moment we have 2 different styles in the site but the functionality is completely unchanged. Please bear with us as we progress the makeover, we will try not to be offline for more than is absolutely neccessary.

Loving Links New Look on the Way

admin — Wed, 28 Mar 2012 09:25:31 +0000

Now the sun is shining and the seasons renew themselves we are adding the final touches to a totally new look to our site. We are very excited about this. It hs taken ages to find a design team we liked who we felt could capture the spirit of 'Links'. There are hundreds of web teams out there but most found it hard to move beyond the adult dating vision which is so wrong for our brand. We have had some amusing design stuff too, with photos of fresh faced boys and girls who obviously should be out looking for 'the one' rather than the 'extra one'. But all is now underway and you will be seeing major site changes in the coming weeks.

Trusting your Extramarital Secrets to a Friend

admin — Tue, 27 Mar 2012 10:30:24 +0000

Recently we have been discussing trust on our forum and the general consensus is that LL folk rank pretty highly. I mention this because of the death of Tony Newton who was the confidante of John Major whilst he was having his affair with Edwina Currie. The secret would have died with him if Ms Currie hadn't reveled it in her biography. Many of us do have secrets in our lives and indeed carry secrets of other people's lives and how you deal with this comes down to integrity.

I have been approached on various occasions to provide material for books that might compromise people who have used our service – some of whom are no longer around. I have always kept schtum however tempting the offer. Tony Newton died with his honour intact which is how his friends and colleagues will remember him whereas Edwina will be remembered for kissing and telling.

Oral Sex Gives You Cancer – Shock Horror!

admin — Fri, 16 Mar 2012 12:03:30 +0000

Panic at planet Daily Mail! The Mail can reveal that oral sex is a carcogenic pastime. Yes indeed, the HPV virus is on the march and taking advantage of the rise in oral sex. It seems that lots of young people are affected as the oral cancer statistics rise to 6000 a year. With this sort of 'evidence' the Daily Mail's editorial stance is surely vindicated. Stick to one partner or even better get married and you will close the door on one more cancer risk – one more harmless pleasure out the window. One more excuse for the good lady at home to refuse a friendly blow job. I dunno, I will stick with the 'fellate and be damned' brigade. I have already given up smoking, cut down on carcogenic red meat and even cut back on booze BUT giving up on oral sex is a step too far whatever the Daily Mail thinks.

Valentine’s Day – A Stolen Kiss From Your Lover?

admin — Tue, 14 Feb 2012 11:42:14 +0000

Here we are again – Feb 14th and Hallmark cards make some money and every florist puts his price up and I can't get a table at my local restaurant. But for how many of you reading this blog is Valentines' a celebration of your core relationship or a blissful, secret celebration of the moments you share with your extramarital lover? Should we have in fact another day dedicated to 'illicit love'? Then we can leave Valentine to his faithful followers who cleave unto eachother and we can have our own saint (St David) to be a figurehead for the discreet relationship?

In any case I am sure it would be well sponsored and funded, men spend more lavishly on their mistresses than on their wives on Feb 14th and usuually put more effort and thought into the whole process. Lots of married guys barely make it to the garage forecourt before the Esso station runs out of wiilting roses. I am sure we can do much better than that!!

Answers please on a tacky 'Hallmark' card.

When it all Comes out in the Wash

admin — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 10:14:44 +0000

I had a bite of lunch with one of my favourite private clients yesterday – I have known him for years – a truly lovely English gent. He has never been a philanderer in the true sense but rather a guy stuck in a dead marriage who takes his family responsibilities seriously but enjoyed the occasional escape of a pretty lady for lunch or tea. Loving links allowed him some 'naughty' time where he could forget his committments and chat and laugh with women who he would never have otherwise had the chance to meet. As I got to know him over the years it was obvious that his wife was a 'dragon' who made his life a misery. Then somewhere along the way he acquired a mistress (not though us) but we continued to lunch, chat and philosophize.

Then yesterday, with the understatement that only the English can acheive, he said he'd had 'rather a trying weekend'. Apparently his doctor had spotted a growth during a routine test and he'd been popped into a clinic for a biopsy. As he recovering from the anasthetic his wife passed by with a bunch of grapes and at that same moment a nurse came into his room to tell him that 'Mary (or whatever the mistresses's name was) had phoned in concern for his health. My friend still groggy from the drugs was given the third degree by the wife, who had started breaking the grapes off at their stalks, and he confessed! Yes, he said, Mary is my mistress, and yes I do love her and I don't love you anymore at all, no way. So wifey is somewhat put out by the revelation and phones Mary and gives her a tongue-lashing.

No sooner had my friend recounted this episode, the aforesaid Mary turned up to join us for drinks. His face lit up, it was a pleasure to see. She was charming, playful and wise and I knew then that my friend had made the only decsion he could in letting it all surface. The sniff of one's own mortality brings an urgency into relationships and a difficult divorce settlement pales into insignificance – 'carpe diem' is the watchword and I understand perfectly.

Infidelity, Politics and Changing Attitudes.

admin — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 12:57:52 +0000

It started out badly for Newt Gingrich — a guy with a lot of sexual baggage in the eyes of the American people. Then, came a surprise resurgence resurgence, he turned into a serious contender, moving up in the polls.. Then came even more damaging claims of sexual misdoings from his ex-wife and that really exploded in the media. Should have been a disaster – he is down and out! But now they’re amazed that his position in the polls carries on rising, with some experts saying he might win the South Carolina Republican primary. Now, we have the results and, heavens above, Newt Gingrich is the winner.!

How could this be? How did a man with such a sexual history actually avoid the fallout? I think I know the answer. The sex card isn’t that important anymore, particularly when indiscretions are in the past and the players are consenting adults. Savvy voters are more interested in how a politician performs on the world stage than in the bedroom. A glance at the history of marital infidelity and sexual morals indicates how this shift in voter priorities has taken place.

More recent surveys say that 30-60% of married men and women have cheated. But the real rate of infidelity is most likely greater than reported. Even if a questionnaire is “anonymous,” many respondents are unwilling to admit cheating on their spouses. While we can’t be certain of the precise numbers, it’s evident that infidelity is widespread. When we read of politicians such as Bojo and Chris Huhne playing away or senior statesmen like Berlusconi running chains of call girls and mistresses and the head of tghe IMF accused of blow jobs with hotel maids how can the media succeed in getting a politician off-track anymore? Well, they probably cant.

Sex and pornography have a dominant role in out society – The Viagra revolution has catapulted many older men off the park bench and into the infidelity game. According to one report, “one out of ten women says her partner cheated on her for the first time after taking the drug."

How does all this relate to Newt Gingrich’s victory in South Carolina? People who claim that errant sexual behavior should disqualify a candidate don’t really vote that position. Bill Clinton’s standing in the polls rose after it was disclosed he had an affair with an intern, even as Republicans sought to impeach him for lying about it. After revelations about Gingrich’s marriage, evangelical voters in South Carolina flocked to the serial polygamist candidate and abandoned the candidate who had been married to the same woman for four decades.Pundits put this down to the fact that peoplke are hypocritical and there is a big gap between what they say and waht they do – what a surprise!

Frankly I am delighted if a candidate's sexual life can be kept out from the election process and now we have got rid of the News of the World which was the forerunner in exposing errant politicians maybe our next elections will be fought on real issues not on background titilations?

Oh Dear! My Implants Have Gone All Wonky.

admin — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 17:06:53 +0000

One of the most popular gifts our Links Gold members seem to give our women is breast implants. For some women it is up there with a Rolex watch and Jimmy Choos as a sign of affection and admiration. Quite often a woman will confide in me and say 'he got me implants for my birthday' – wow a present that goes on giving!

Now I wonder if these ladies will be asking for some prompt after sales service on their enhancements? I can imagine the scene. 'Oh darling you know my tits you gave me/us last year could we take them back and replace them?' I am sure they would be really miffed if they had changed lovers in the meantime an they can't get the new guy to cough up. After all you can always have your Rolex reapired and the tyres changed on your Mini!

By the way, Happy New Year to everyone!

How to seduce women from the Loving Links Site – Revealed!

admin — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 10:51:26 +0000

Yesterday I had Xmas lunch with an old LL client who has been using our site on and off for 12 years and who has had intimate knowledge of more than 80 women. He is not Brad Pitt, he is nice looking, good gym-toned body but not a movie star. He had been away for a couple of years (family stuff) but came back early this year for 2 months under a new identity that I didnt even spot. He was full of praise for the LL system. "Use it right" he said "and it is a total sexual goldmine". I asked him his secret and it was the following: He spent two 5 hour sessions at his computer and wrote to 70 women. Each email was personally constructed and obviously written just for her. He received 18 replies. He exchanged emails with these 18 women and the list of possibles was whittled down to 5 meetings. Each of the 5 was interested and he eventually settled for one woman who has been seeing for 3 months -result!

I told him that some guys get discouraged when they don't see instant results and he laughed – women told him just how unrealistic many men were in expecting instant sex. "It doesnt matter how horny a woman is " he said "evryone wants to be seduced. You can't just blunder in asking if they are 'up for it'! " Some guys he said even have a hotel booked for the first meeting which is reallly arrogant and offensive to many women who come to LL looking for a fun realtionship with an interesting guy. This tallies with many of the feedbacks I have had from female users who say that men feel that an affair should pop through their PC screen like an ITune download. No, you have to be prepared to work at it.

If you use LL in a thoughtful way, taking time to seduce women you meet on the site you will succeed – our users are genuine and come to us to find friendship + sex not just a quick sh@g.