As Woody Allen said ‘being bisexual doubles your chances for saturday night’ and he was absolutely correct.  More and more people are experimenting and being bi-curious is becoming a more common path for many , especially women.  This is why we have also launched a bisexual dating site called www.bisexualdesires.com to give a nice quality resource to that market.  I remember that after a recent LL burlesque evening several of our ladies got very ‘fruity’ and this gave me the idea for expanding into that marketplace.  So why not check out that site and also have a look at the facebook page we have put up for our other niche dating site  http://www.facebook.com/abundantlovebbwdates  which is for bbw dating – there are some very horny larger women out there who can show you some very special things.

What a week!!  Return of the ‘sperminator’  ‘Fred the bed’ ‘Chaud lapin’  where will it end???  Its as if every public figure was rapidly turning into a ‘pubic’ figure as we see the great and the good parading thru the media like satyrs on viagra.   Arnie at least gets brownie points for actually financially supporting his housemaid (I keep thinking biblical handmaiden) although I don’t congratulate him on his taste.  She at least got her eggs genetically upgraded from the encounter.

Fred the shredded bed got my attention.  He always looked the sort.  His demeanour is one I often see when i meet private clients who head up large corporations.  there is a naughty invincibilty about them, a smile that gets their secretary’s juices flowing – a charisma of easy (and maybe unearned) power.  Fred had it all in spades.  I would have mentioned my thoughts at the time of the RBS collapse but I am wary of litigious personalities.  Now it is all over the media I am free to report the gossip.   Hopefully his paramour is more bedworthy to look at than Chris Huhne’s bit on the side.  Judging from the pic of her in the Daily Mail Carina (for that is apparently her name) doesnt look much of a ‘head turner’ but then the Mail is not going to sprinkle ‘magic lens dust’ on a woman who has strayed to the darkside.  Heavens!  Looking as she does on page 5 I would be hard pressed to take her into our private service. 

The other evening I was broadcasting on BBC World Service (World have your say) talking about the Arnie case.  Was Shriver right to leave as if Ms Shriver’s Millionaire decisions can really impact a housewife in Nairobi.  It was a fascinating programme – it always is, the WHYS team are brilliant.  Do download the podcast and enjoy.

Tonight is the Erotic Awards evening where I am up as a finalist in the Pioneer of the year category.  My fingers are crossed.

Dominique Strauss-Kahn (aka DSK) the head of the IMF joins our randy hall of fame. His reputation as a womaniser became tarnished however when he apparently forced his attentions on a chambermaid at a New York hotel.  Even more damning was the comment that ‘He’s rude and doesn’t tip well’.  On the other hand he has good literary credentials having had a book by Yasmina Reza apparently dedicated to him as ‘a lover’.

Chris Hune however, joins our adulterers hall of shame for his ungentelmanly conduct in regard to an alleged driving offence where it seems, according to the press, he asked his estranged wife to carry the can for his speeeding.  This was at a time when he was shagging the bi-sexual Ms Trimingham.  He also gets bad marks for portraying himself as ‘a fine family man’ on his election literature last year – I dislike hypocrisy ;_(

Looking forward to this friday evening when I am up for an ‘erotic award’ at the Night of the Senses event in London as ‘Pioneer of the Year’ .  I’ll let you know how it goes.

I am sitting here blogging, looking out over the Baltic from my bolthole in Scandinavia.  It is a lovely morning and pretty Swedish women come and go in my seaside coffee shop.  I look out at the archipelago – little islands peppered with summer houses and I think about Ingmar Bergman and how he understood the psyche of the Scandinavian sexual mind.

His wonderful comedy about infidelity – Smiles of a Summer Night (1955) has just been released as a Blu-Ray (I have a copy of the original DVD) .

The year is 1901. Desirée Armfeldt, an actress once involved with lawyer Fredrik Egerman, is having an affair with Count Malcolm, husband of Charlotte. Egerman has married the much younger Anne, still a virgin, who is intrigued by Egerman’s scholarly son, Henrik. When Desirée comes to town for a play, complications arise, not least when the principals assemble at the estate of Desirée’s mother, a former courtesan.

The degree to which these people overthink their lives is reflected in the carefree way Petra, Anne’s maid, teases Henrik and takes up with Frid, a groom working at the estate. And the antics of the Egermans and the Malcolms are placed in perspective by the elder Armfeldt, a world-weary but worldly wise soul who tells her daughter that she should have seen the way things worked in the old days.

Asked whether she might write her memoirs, the mother replies that she “got this mansion for promising not to write my memoirs.” But she has clearly been reading Oscar Wilde, since Bergman invests so much of what she says with a Wildean outrageousness. “If people only knew how unhealthy it is to listen to what people say, they never would,” she opines to her daughter, “and then they would feel so much better.”

I return to my coffee and morning bun and reflect on the coming of midsummer and the pretty Swedish women all around me.

After a 6 year absence from the sexy BBW (big beautiful women) scene the iconic abundantlove site has relaunched.  This is a splendid site if you like your lovers really curvy.  Although it bills itself as a ‘singles’ site there is always room for manouevre.  BBW’s havealways  been frequent feature of the extramarital scene  – maybe they just have too much to give!  Anyway, abundantlove was always our favourite site so it is wonderful to see it back.

Yes its true!  We have been nominated as a finalist at the famous Night of the Senses event with yours truly nominated as Pioneer of the Year 2011.  this is a huge honour at a world event in the erotic calendar.  If you have never been before then tyry to get a ticket – £75.00 – and come and support Loving Links and the wonderful ‘Outsiders’ charity which is behind the event.  The event has been going for decades – it was originally the ‘Sex Maniacs Ball’ but now it is the most amazing celebration of everything erotic and a way of honouring people and organisations who contribute to the erotic freedom in our country.  So check out the site, try to get a ticket – they are like gold dust and have a wonderful evening.

Although Barack Obama has called Indonesia ‘a beacon of light in the Muslim world’ all the news coming out of Indonesia recently has been over sexual repression.  The other day a woman was  flogged in public for ‘being ‘close proximity’ to a man.  The woman was in the process of divorcing her husband but she was dragged screaming by the crowd and clerics to the town square where a masked cleric fogged her mecilessly in front of a baying crowd. I read stories like this and I really worry.  Only last year Muslim groups in the uK were calling for the rights to use Sharia law in their own communities.  Of course, it won’t start off with flogging, it will be over ‘property’ disputes.  But then that’s what adultery punishment is – a property dispute!!! – Your wife is your property and has been used by someone else. These things are insiduous and can only make communities look back to old values and give them value.  If this adultery blog has any purpose it is to higlight the repression of sexuality around the world as well as to take delight in adultery news and events in this country.

Great LL-type piece in the Dailiy Mail today – it could have come directly from our forum.  Yikes! Maybe the fragrant Rowan Pelling is one of our posters.  Be great if she was, she would be an agony aunt with style.  I remember her in the old Erotic Review days when she would titilate with her soft porn purrings.   The Loving Links social crowd had a great night out at Mme Jojos on friday with round three of the Burlesque Idol contest.  One of our crowd – the famous erotic commentator Sarah Berry – was nominated as best dressed (i.e most erotically dressed) audience member award.  These evenings are such fun and capture the real spirit of loving links as a genuine community of adulterers on the town.

No, we are not talking some strange Amish commune in Utah we are talking UK.  Have a look at the amazing thread unfolding on our forum which will put your eyes open wide.

So John Terry is back with the captain’s armband just one short year after Capello said it would never happen.  Frankly, your average hermit spends longer in the wilderness!    Over the weekend Tiger Woods said he hoped to put his troubles behiund him and start winning the majors.  He feels he has done his penance and is ready to forget his marital swinging and focus on his golf swinging.  There is always a quick period of redemption for our celebrity class.  How very different from the 1960′s when people like John Profumo the government minister who fell from grace after the Christine Keeler affair did 50 years of penance working quietly behind the scenes for charity.  In thos edays shame counted for something.  I’m not moralising just commenting on the ways in which attitudes change over time.  Anyway lets hope John Terry can keep his trousers on and get the ball in the back of the net.