It started out badly for Newt Gingrich — a guy with a lot of sexual baggage in the eyes of the American people. Then, came a surprise resurgence resurgence, he turned into a serious contender, moving up in the polls.. Then came even more damaging claims of sexual misdoings from his ex-wife and that really exploded in the media. Should have been a disaster – he is down and out! But now they’re amazed that his position in the polls carries on rising, with some experts saying he might win the South Carolina Republican primary. Now, we have the results and, heavens above, Newt Gingrich is the winner.!

One of the most popular gifts our Links Gold members seem to give our women is breast implants.  For some women it is up there with a Rolex watch and Jimmy Choos as a sign of affection and admiration.  Quite often a woman will confide in me and say 'he got me implants for my birthday' – wow a present that goes on giving!

Now I wonder if these ladies will be asking for some prompt after sales service on their enhancements?  I can imagine the scene.  'Oh darling you know my tits you gave me/us last year could we take them back and replace them?'  I am sure they would be really miffed if they had changed lovers in the meantime an they can't get the new guy to cough up.  After all you can always have your Rolex reapired and the tyres changed on your Mini!

By the way, Happy New Year to everyone!

Yesterday I had Xmas lunch with an old LL client who has been using our site on and off for 12 years and who has had intimate knowledge of more than 80 women.  He is not Brad Pitt, he is nice looking, good gym-toned body but not a movie star.  He had been away for a couple of years (family stuff) but came back early this year for 2 months under a new identity that I didnt even spot.  He was full of praise for the LL system.  "Use it right" he said "and it is a total sexual goldmine".   I asked him his secret and it was the following:  He spent two 5 hour sessions at his computer and wrote to 70 women.  Each email was personally constructed and obviously written just for her.  He received 18 replies.  He exchanged emails with these 18 women and the list of possibles was whittled down to 5 meetings.  Each of the 5 was interested and he eventually settled for one woman who has been seeing for 3 months -result!

I told him that some guys get discouraged when they don't see instant results and he laughed – women told him just how unrealistic many men were in expecting instant sex.  "It doesnt matter how horny a woman is " he said "evryone wants to be seduced.  You can't just blunder in asking if they are 'up for it'! "  Some guys he said even have a hotel booked for the first meeting which is reallly arrogant and offensive to many women who come to LL looking for a fun realtionship with an interesting guy.  This tallies with many of the feedbacks I have had from female users  who say that men feel that an affair should pop through their PC screen like an ITune download. No, you have to be prepared to work at it.

If you use LL in a thoughtful way, taking time to seduce women you meet on the site you will succeed – our users are genuine and come to us to find friendship + sex not just a quick sh@g. 

Feeling slightly groggy after night of excess at the LL Xmas drinks in Covent Garden yesterday. Jeez! Lots of bubbly, anyone would think we were a bunch of bankers rather than a batch of happy adulterers. Amazing how long some people had been part of our little community, one lady I was talking to had user ID #5 on our forum – that goes back well over a decade.

I guess that is the community spirtit that makes links a bit special and keeps me working hard for it to succeed and dance on into 2012.

It has been a very hectic time here at LL this Winter which is , I suppose, some excuse for not blogging as regularly as I should.  There is also the problem that there is only so much one can say about adultery without become too repetitious.  In something like 300 posts I guess I have explored most of the main subject areas and writing about tabloid celebrity affairs is never that interesting.

This week we are getting into the Xmas spirit here at LL and we have our Xmas drinks party booked for next wednesday evening in central London.  If you regularly visit our forum you will know the venue details but if you are not a regular forum user then do make a new years resolution to visit and post regularly so we invite you to these events.

I know that the recession is beginning to bite and many of you are cutting corners in your dating so next year I will use this blog to look at ways in which you can save money on your romantic restaurants and hotel rooms whilst avoiding the obvious travelodges which are not the most inviting places for romance and lust.  I might even bring in some guest bloggers to talk very specifically about these subject areas.  I think that this might be a useful service in these difficult times.

The Mail and other papers were full of the shock horror revelations last week about how the 60+ age grouip is leading the trend to divorce – off to hell in a handcart.  The papers do of course, place much of the blame on the ease by which the senior crowd can flirt and date on the internet and hang out on sites like loving links where they can 'window shop' on available partners who want more from their lives than the W.I or the golf course.  Apparently there are thousands of marriages out there where couples live in boring, celibate loveless lives but never used to have a market to date in.  So how does this gell with our experience of LL daters.

Well, certainly we get plenty of users in their late middle age many of whom missed out on the freelove of the 60's because they married early and now thanks to fitness gyms, plastic surgeons and lifestyle pharmaceuticals are out there and raring to go.  I had a couple of these 'silver shaggers' last week who came to join up on our Links Gold service – the guy was mid 60's and she was probably a tad older but looked good.  Neither wanted divorce but would probably have looked more seriously at doing so if we didnt hold out a glimmer of hope for them.

It is my guess that these divorcing seniors are flirting as 'pretend singles' on mature singles dating sites and then get a bit carried away by the sweetie shop feel of online dating, people who come to sites like loving links are probably more committed to their marriage.

There you are, sitting at your work station having a pause from the markets, flirting on your Blackberry with a girl you had met online.  You are momentarily distracted thinking of all the nice things you are going to do with her/to her.  Something flickers on your screen but the girl had just made a provocative retort that sent a tremor thru you nether regions.  The screen flicker passes and you resume the seduction.  The screen flashes again and you pay it some attention – Fuck! Fuck! Fuck! a client has just lost a bundle of dosh when you werent looking, still its not the end of the world you can finesse that if necessary.  Pussy, you think, can be very distracting at important moments.    Imagine then how poor Conrad Murray is feeling – he of the Michael Jackson Medical corps – taking his eye off the ball whilst flirting with a cocktail waitress.  I bet his erection subsided pretty quickly when Michael croaked.

Funny, isnt it how cocktail waitesses are always involved = be it Tiger Woods or Conrad Murray . What is about them that so tantalises the American male?  We don't get so giddy with barmaids over here.  Is it that an American cocktail waitress is always a wannbe actress filling in time between castings rather than a overstretched single mum trying to make a few quid pulling pints in her local to top up her benefits?   Is it the seduction of the plate of olives and smoked almonds sashayed over to you as opposed to the bag of pork scratchings slung across the bar counter?  Whatever it is, the cocktail waitress is obviously an iconic creature that has brought many a great man his knees.

I was just reading an article by Carolyn Hax an agony aunt in the Washington Post where she discusses why she limits the advice she is prepared to give on realtionship issues.  When one of her readers asks why she isnt prepared to give an opinion on affairs when a marriage has broken down she says:

'..it’s not just affairs that I won’t advise; I also don’t advise people to get married, or divorced. Having or adopting children? Aborting or placing for adoption? I regard these also as courses of action too deeply personal to advise. People know of these options and don’t need me to suggest them — so if I did suggest them, it would feel as if I were putting my finger on the scale. I don’t want that power.'

But surely (shurely) the whole point of an advice columnist is to give advice rather than sit on the fence and say 'I'm not the right person to ask..'  I like agony aunts who say it as it is and nail their colours to the mast.  I'd much sooner give respect to Anne Atkins who used to be the Agony aunt on the Telegraph, who feels that sites like Loving links are the work of the devil and that infidelity is a sure route to damnation.  At least you know where you stand.  i have been on discussion programmes with Anne and she will never say " You know, David, you might have a good point there, nookie could be the answer.." At the other end of the spectrum I have enormous respect for Susan Quilliam who is quite likely to say " David, I think your service would be great for a couple of people I know, I'll pass on your mobile.."  Even Denise, the agony aunt on ''This Morning' show on ITV is prepared to speak her mind – nothing wishy washy there.  She dislikes our sort of service with a vengance and will give no quarter in a discussion.  None of these women would say these are  'courses of action too deeply personal to advise'.  They will advise, whatever you might think about it.   I am sure Carolyn Hax is a good columnist, I read her quite often but what is the point of billing yourself as an advisor and then opting out of giveing advice on the basis that you'don’t want that power.'

No sooner had I run this morning’s piece on STD’s and the like and taking care of your sexual health I had 4 emails from companies wanting me to mention their sites in my blog.  One of them – a health insurance site for adults were very friendly and offered me help  on my own renewal if I gave them a plug.  i have done that!  Any way we all need to be better informed about our health so i am happy to promote things like that.  Back to normal adultery blogging over the weekend.

We are redesigning our venerable blog in a week or so – should be nice.

David