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I was reading a very interesting article in the Daily Mail today regarding a book by Catherine Hakim on ‘Erotic Capital’. In it she argues that men and women have vastly different libidos and needs when it comes to sex and that women aren’t all up for a ‘quick shag’ from their 20′s to their 70′s. Now this comes as a no-brainer to most thinking adults but apparently the eager consumption of porn has glossed all this over and we actually start to believe that most women would prefer a ‘pearl necklace’ made of freshly spurted semen than one from Aspreys. This is a myth that also serves the seamier side of the interenet adult dating scene where many sites are happy and profitably promoting the idea that women are as constantly ‘up for it’ as men and they have the zillions of fake profiles to prove it! I went thru an email exchange with a guy earlier this month who couldn’t understand why we didn’t have enough new women for him that week. I pointed out that at the height of the summer school holidays a married mother of two might have other priorities than giving a blow job to a random stranger she met online. Of course there are women out there with unquenchable libidos, I have met quite a few over the last 15 years but as Ms Hakim points out in her book, most women give higher priorities to pets than rampant cocks. So where does that leave us? Well, in the book Ms Hakim says there are many celibate relationships so there are many frustrated partners but there will always be a demographic imbalance between the sexes. We leave the porn/adult industry to perpetuate the myth of endlessly horny women and we will carry on with our genuine community of men and women looking for fulfilment – both emotional and sexual.