If your fantasies are to be tucked up under a duvet with a lovely scandi-blonde from Stockholm or Helsinki then help is at hand.  There is a great dating site that does just that!   Scandimatch links scandinavian with other scandinavians and also with Brits.  www.scandimatch.com lets all sides win.  The scandis have loved the Brits for centuries – that’s why they kept on invading us and raping our women.  we hope they are gentler these days     I personally love scand blondes so much that I live with one   this scandimatch site will let lots of other horny Brits follow in my path.

We have an amusing thread running on the forum this week – a spoof agony uncle theme.  This arose because there has been some talk on the forum as to whether adulterers need an agony column.  I know that over the last 15 years I have met most of the major agony aunts/uncles and usually been chastised by them on tV shows and on the radio.  Most of them, perhaps with the exception of Susan Quilliam, could not advise on how to feed a dog let alone handle a relationship.  Susan Quilliam, to her credit actually recognises that we are frail creatures and might not always make the most moral or wise decisions.  Others I have met have either been ‘God chatterers’  or poorly qualified psychotherapists dangling diplomas from the University of Southern Kansas or home grown loonies with certificates from the Wembley campus of Ikea.  So should Loving Links have a resident agony uncle/aunt?  Are philanderers in need of someone to share their problems and pontificate on their worries?  I am not sure on this one but I quite like the way our current spoof thread is heading.  Who knows it might produce a new Claire Rayner

On this, the most romantic day of the year the big question for all adulterers is ‘do I spend tonight with my wife or with my mistress?’  Difficult one that.  Even more of a problem if your mistress is not married.  This is a similar problem to Xmas arrangements, a philanderer is torn between being in passionate embrace or being a loving and attentive married partner.  This is a real quandry, what sort of alibi would allow a man the night off on Valentine’s?  Is it worth the risk?  Will your mistress be furious imagining you are bouncing under the duvet with your regular partner.  Xmas is less awful in that the mistress can imagine a xmas toys scenario but for Valentine’s the only scenario is dimmed lights and M&S £10 special for 2  and a ‘yes of course I still love you’.    I wonder how many affairs go awry after Valentines or how many adulterers find the guilt too much to handle?

I think I’ll just watch Eastenders!

Had a great time at the IDATE conference in Miami.  It was the first time I’d made the effort.   What struck me first was the preponderance of Russians and Ukranians in the dating industry.   Not that they were a ‘romantic’ bunch but they seem to know just how to work the internet.   But this is how the dating business has moved on in this age of sicial networks and google-domination.  Small, friendly sites like ours sit in the shadow of these huge dating networks and wonder how it all happened

We had some very interesting discussion groups on internet fraud and fake profiles.  This is a problem all sites seem to share especially the ‘free’ sites. We even had an FBI guy tell us about the latest detection methods they are implementing.  But where there is the possi bility of love, people will believe anything and happily send thousands of dollars via Western Union to help their new best friend out of a problem.

The conference organisers were very good and they laid on parties every night around the Miami night spots.  I might even return next year.