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When we launched loving links as a solution for boring celibate marriage we were classified by internet newsgroups as ‘alt lifestyle’ along with ‘hippies’, ‘vegans’ and ‘cross dressers’ – I used to post on ‘usenet’ community groups  and get attacked by radical polygamists who thought we were immoral.  These days I supposed we would just get classified into the ‘adult dating’ category as if all the philosophical arguments had been resolved.  Yet, last night I was thinking about ‘alt lives’ rather than ‘alt lifestyles’.  The reason being that a group of us went out on one of our regular Loving links evenings in London and booked a table at a burlesque club.  Amongst the crowd were several firm longterm pairs of lovers.  They looked so natural together, as lovers should, but they were actually living their ‘alternative lives’ rather than the lives that their friends and families normally witness.  Under other circumstances each of these LL individuals would be partnered at a function with someone completely different, the photos of laughing couples taken last night would be replaced other people.    I know this has been the theme of many films over the years where – often when a character dies – a whole secret life is discovered peopled with history and events that were happening in some strange yet parallel universe.   I know this sounds very philosophical for a bank holiday bit of blogging but even I get tired of Ashley Cole and Tiger Woods        For many people the idea of trying out life/intimacy/socialising with different partners simultaenously remains a fantasy and a daydream it is something that our friends here at Loving links do succeed in experiencing.  there is acceptance and reassurance that what is seen as an impossible ‘alt lifestyle’ for most  is in fact a very possible and enjoyable  ‘alt life’ for some of us.