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I was reading an interesting piece in The Mail today  by Clare Catford who went into rehab for her love addiction.  I was especially intersted with one of her comments

Dan and I dated for a year and the relationship was quickly intense sexually and emotionally, because that’s what I craved."

For Clare, it marked the start of a decade of unhealthy, addictive relationships with men.

"I finished with Dan after that exciting initial period ended because I craved that intensity again…

It is this intensive initial period that fascinates me because I have always believd that is what LL provides best - what I call the ‘pink fluffy period’ at the start of the relationship when everything is an explosion of chemicals and hormones.  It is what the Observer quoted me as calling ‘the crack cocaine’ of relationships.  

"I was with heroin and cocaine addicts in rehab," says Clare, "and I realised that our addictions were fundamentally the same.

I see this addiction time and time again especially amongst longterm private clients and I think it is essentially different and more interesting than the ‘I want a shag’ brigade who congregate in the sex industry and porn parlours.   I think Clare’s need to go into rehab is a trifle extreme and although she says it is now under control I have my doubts.  I know in my own case I am a ‘lapsed’ smoker but there are times I am am so so close to having a ciggie