I notice that recently the term ‘extramarital dating’ is being replaced by ‘married dating’ on internet searches.  When we set up shop 13 yrs ago we rarely used the term ‘married dating’  it was all about ‘extramarital’   We sometimes talked about attached dating but not often   I only notice this when I am checking the keywords on google that people use to find us.  Maybe extramarital dating is a bit of a long term to type in.  I guess users are now more google savvy and specific in searches.  Quite a lot of traffic comes from ‘dating married women’ too.  Oh well, just a late nite thought.

Reading the Guardian today I found the following agony aunt question:

My husband and I have stopped having sex. We’ve been celibate for about a year (I know he’s not having an affair). We’ve both been struggling at work and with our teenage children, so I’m not sure I miss it. He doesn’t seem bothered, but what will happen to us if we stop having sex?

The article then went on to elaborate the situation of what they call ‘incels’  which when I googled came up as ‘do you mean "in cells"?      But a lot of what I found on google seemed to be sexual incompetents/perennial virgins etc.  Would an adulterer feel less guilty if they saw themselves as an incel?  I am going to spend a moment investigating this whole incel thing and register on all their support groups and report back.

Mobile phones are both the adulterer’s best friend and worst enemy.  Recent research found that nearly 90 per cent of affairs in Italy are revealed by mobile phone. And texting your secret squeeze can leave your dignity, as well as your relationship, in tatters. Rebecca Loos’ steamy messages to Becks supposedly included the gem, ‘You should see me naked with only a white cotton g-string.’ Becks’ alleged response begins, ‘I love the sound of that cotton…’ Meanwhile, a text message from Aussie spin bowler Shane Warne to an alleged mistress apparently began, ‘What about i meet you somewhere in the open and you can be standing there in the rain i can come meet you in the rain and then…’

Yes I’ve been dumped from the been-dumped.com website. I posted my thoughts on their forum which were very reasonable and they have barred me from entering I enjoy surfing relationship forums and its the first time i’ve been dumped.  Pity really because I offer another viewpoint which may or may not interest our infuriate their other members.

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Another site to name and shame fun-loving adulterers .   It does however provide a good list of possible naughty friends with their geographical location.  Lots of northern jezebels to check out.  Maybe you know some of them - maybe its YOU!!!

I have just done my first video and popped it on youtube  and its not too bad.  I will do a series of videos along these lines to help potential adulterers understand what to look out for and how to plan their affair.  Its all rather exciting this multimedia stuff

I just saw a horrific website that scared the bejesus out of me.  This is kiss and tell at its most grasping and aggressive.  Sell your love rat down the river and laugh all the way to Prada!  You don’t even have to shag a footballer these scum will sell your shameful little fling with the local bank manager.  I dislike cheque book journalism but this is the pits.

You’ve got to laugh or else…   had in an irate email today from a female user asking me take a guy off the site.  Why? I asked.  Because he lied to her!   He told her she was his first extramarital fling etc  and then she found out she wasn’t  - duh!?  Seems par for the course for me.   Then she said she was concerned he’d left her with more than a bad memory - that’s why God created the condom..!!   Trouble is that she was in her middle years as was he and so their lives had been fairly latex free - I hate the things myself but if you’re gonna mess online put on your wet weather gear!  Suggested she put his details on www.dontdatehimgirl.com  one of my fav anti men sites.

I really would!   Just had a truly lovely meeting with one of the most enjoyable women I have ever met.  She is unlikely to read my blog so I allow myself the right to wax lyrical.    She had a mix of genes to baffle the UN and an accent to make men weak at the knees.    So  why lovinglinks?   Well she is fiercely independent - a single mother by choice - and doesnt want anything that hems her in and wants to own her.  Her spirit is as free as the air but most importantly she is briumming over with integrity, humour and vivacity.  OK, I’m impressed, now the problem is to find a client suitable to introduce to her - who says this job is easy?